Here’s the deal. Sure your lovely bride has a handle on her wedding checklist, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want your input and contribution. Your lady is planning the biggest party of your lives so she could use a little help. Lucky for you I’ve rounded up a list of things you should be helping out with to win mega brownie points. Here is the ultimate groom wedding planning to-do list!

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HELP LOCATE A VENUE
Visit venues with your bride and try to find a location that speaks to you as a couple.

SHOW UP AT THE BRIDAL SHOWER WITH FLOWERS
Earn mega brownie points and stop by her bridal shower with fresh flowers. She and her friends will swoon! Make sure to add this task to your groom wedding planning checklist!

HAVE A GUEST LIST COMPLETE WITH ADDRESSES
Don’t just give her names of your friends and family you want to invite, provide her with their addresses and whether or not you are offering them a plus one.

HELP WITH THE SEATING CHART
You know your friends and family best and who they’d be comfortable sitting with, so let your bride know. Also have a say in whether you are having a sweetheart table, having a bridal party table or sitting with your family at the reception.

BE THE IN-LAW BUFFER
A lot of opinions and decisions are to be made about the big day, keep the peace between your parents and the bride.

PLAN ROMANTIC DATE NIGHTS WHERE YOU DON’T DISCUSS THE BIG DAY
Don’t loose track of what it’s all about! Give her a break from the wedding stress and wine and dine her just as you plan on doing for the rest of your lives.

GIVE INPUT ON THE MENU AND GROOM’S SIGNATURE COCKTAIL
Create a signature cocktail that you love and give it a crafty name. Attend the food tasting and give input to the chef.

PROVIDE DIY ASSISTANCE
If your bride is making her invitations, making DIY wedding favors or creating wedding signage, offer to help stuff, seal or paint.

CARE ABOUT YOUR ATTIRE
She has likely picked out the wedding colors, but you know the brands you love and what will make you look and feel your best on your wedding day. Put your own mark on your attire like colorful socks for you and your groomsmen or think about what piece you want different from your groomsmen to stand out.

PLAN THE REHEARSAL DINNER
Plan everything from the venue, to the menu and cocktails being served. Discuss attendees with your bride and provide these guests with a rehearsal dinner card in their invitation.

WRITE YOUR OWN VOWS
As part of your groom wedding planning list, don’t forget to think about what you want to vow to her and write your own vows from the heart.

MUSIC SELECTION
Pick songs you’ll love to dance to and songs that would be meaningful for your first dance and mother-son dance.

PLAN AN EXTRAORDINARY HONEYMOON
Discuss if you want a relaxing beach destination or an adventurous culture-rich location. Book the flights, hotels, activities and plan a surprise or two as well!

GIVE HER ONE HECK OF A NEWLYWED KISS
Your first kiss as husband and wife is a special moment and one shared with those you love. Make sure it’s a good one!