This day may be about you and your fiance, but when your fiance has a child, it’s about the three of you. Here are 7 ways to incorporate your step child into the wedding day festivities.
A WEDDING DAY GIFT
It’s traditional to get your fiance a gift on the wedding day.. so why not your new step-child?! For a boy I love the idea of a money clip with the wedding date engraved or for a girl a necklace with the date engraved.
When you meet with the officiant, talk about ways to include your future stepchild in the ceremony. Some couples combine 3 different colors of sand or combine milk; and have each of you sip the concoction to represent the combining of the family.
Add a special few lines in your vows for your future step child. You are not just marrying your fiance after all, you are marrying his family. By adding vows to your future step child to the vows shows them your commitment to the family and what it means to have them as a stepchild.
Have your maid-of-honor or best man interview your future stepchild to incorporate their answers into their speech. To make it easy on the child, ask them 3 things they like or love about their new step-parent. When the best man recites back that the child likes that you bring them snacks, it’s sure to get a laugh!
Make your new stepchild feel extra comfortable surrounded by their peers at a kids table.
THEIR OWN DRINK
Weddings are all about toasts. Make sure your new step child has something to toast with! Make it fancy by putting milk in a champagne glass with a cookie on top for dipping!
SURPRISE THEM WITH A DANCE
Keep this one under-wraps and it’s sure to be a tearjerker! After the first dance, the father-daughter dance and the mother-son dance, surprise your new stepchild with a special dance. Pick their favorite song and embrace the moment.