BE YOU
Keep your vows personal, true to who you are as a couple. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not! If you’re funny – be funny! If you’re emotional – be that! Don’t try to put on an act for an audience, because these sweet words are really just for your sweetheart.

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KEEP YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE
Carry around a notebook during your engagement and take note of what you love most about your sweetheart. Whether it be that he always brings you coffee in bed, or the way his face lights up when you watch his favorite show, take note of these seemingly simple traits. By the end of your engagement you’ll notice you have a notebook filled with inspiration to start writing those seriously sweet vows.

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WRITE IT DOWN
Try as you might be memorize, you will want to write your vows down. Keep them handy during your ceremony and reference as needed! My favorite idea – write your vows in a sweet greeting card for the perfect keepsake.

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FIND INSPIRATION
Find a favorite poem, get inspo from pinterest for the perfect quote – whatever it may be, remember that it doesn’t hurt to find a few favorites to reference.

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ASK FOR ADVICE
Consider asking a few of your favorite married couples for one piece of marriage advice – this might help inspire your vows!

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CONSIDER YOUR AUDIENCE
Ovoid oversharing, or saying something that could be potentially embarrassing. Consider this – if you wouldn’t say it in the presence of your 80 year old grammie, don’t include it in your vows.

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PRACTICE
I can’t reiterate this enough – rehearse, rehearse, rehearse. The last thing you want to do is fumble your own vows, and the easiest way to prevent this is to practice!

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DON’T MAKE PROMISES YOU WON’T KEEP
These are words you’re going to remember forever, so don’t make promises you don’t intend on keeping. For example, don’t vow that you’ll make your husbands favorite dinner every Friday night, because some nights you might want to break said vow for a frozen pizza.

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EMBRACE THE EMOTION
Understand that you might cry and that’s ok! Some of the sweetest ceremonies I’ve ever seen are the ones where the couple tears up!

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KEEPSAKES
Once you’ve written your vows, consider having them made into a keepsake. My favorite idea? Ask you favorite calligrapher to write them out and frame them in your new home.

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