Arguably one of the hardest parts of wedding planning is tailoring your guest list. Sure you have to consider you and your spouse’s friends and family members, but there are also gray areas such as plus-ones, co-workers, kids and so on. In the world of weddings the more guests equals more money (and less personal), so the easiest way to save money on your wedding and make it more intimate is to shorten your wedding invite list. Here’s simple ways to shorten your guest list.

THIS IS HOW TO CUT YOUR WEDDING GUEST LIST

LOCATION

Considering a destination wedding? Great choice. The further away you host your wedding, the easier it will be to shorten the guest list. Having an intimate wedding in Napa Valley makes it easy to take people off, and less people are likely to make the trip. Having it in a far-off location makes it a lot easier to leave people you’re not as close with off the list. Instead, throw an intimate party for those who want to celebrate and congratulate you.

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BLAME THE VENUE

All venue’s have a capacity limit, so blame it on the venue. Tell people you’re having a very small ceremony with just our closest family and friends. This will make your wedding sound romantic, rather than exclusive. If uninvited friends keep prying about where their wedding invite is, tell them you unfortunately couldn’t invite everyone you wanted due to capacity. It takes the blame off of you.

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THE PLUS ONE CUT

Come to an agreement with your fiance on where you draw the line with plus one’s. For example, only if you’ve met them, if they’ve been dating over a year or any other kind of factor that makes you feel comfortable. This is acceptable as long as you keep the rule consistent and don’t make exceptions for anyone. With a rule like this in place, you can easily cut your guest list down.

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ADULTS ONLY

No, you don’t have to invite your friends kids to your wedding. Allowing kids can really up your head count fast. By not allowing children it will allow all your friends and family who are parents a stress-free time. Plus they can be spendy. From kids food to activities and a separate table, it’s just one more thing you have to account for. And there’s nothing like a toddler crying hysterically to ruin your ceremony or first dance. On your invitation list out specific names of who is invited to your wedding from each household.

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KNOW YOUR A, B, C’s

In The A, B, C’s of Sending Wedding Invitations I break down how to do this effortlessly without anyone even knowing. Think of your guests as in three categories. Your A-list is made up of your closest friends and family you cannot get married without, like your best friend growing up, your close relatives, etc. Your B-list is made up of people you’d like to have there. These might be college friends, extended family, etc. Then finally, your C-list is a group of people you can add to the list if you have extra space. These people might be co-workers or childhood friends you haven’t seen in a while. This will help you a whole lot when it comes to making cuts. When sending your wedding invitations, send of the B’s and then C’s as you start to get some declines back in the mail.

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KEEP IT TIGHT

If your friend from college invited you to her wedding two years ago but you haven’t spoken to her since, you might consider removing her from the guest list. An invite to someone else’s wedding does not secure them an invite to yours, especially if you haven’t spoken in a long time. Don’t let the guilt of leaving people off the list consume you.

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Happy best shopping day of the year friends! I wanted to share some of the top Black Friday sales I’ll be hitting this year because they are GOOD! From promo codes to extra discounts on sales items, you’ll be sure to find something at these places for everyone on your list at a mega discount. And be sure to come back this week as I’ll be sharing more gift guides and some of my favorite gifts I purchased! Happy online shopping!

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It’s that time to gather with loved ones and celebrate over a really great meal; a.k.a. my most favorite time of year. For this feast, I’ve called upon muted tones set against classic plaid, a sparkle of gold and the most delicious recipes on the planet to host your besties. Friendsgiving might be the more laid-back cousin to Thanksgiving, but that doesn’t mean it still can’t have all the glory of its family traditions to its counterpoint. Sure, I totally get the yoga pants vs. fancy dress debate, but this is a holiday that can have it both ways! Just specify in your invites!

I’m diving into all things Friendsgiving and the biggest piece of that? You guessed it, the almighty menu. Unlike traditional Thanksgiving meals, Friendsgiving allows you to get a little more creative and break away from tradition. See my picks below that will make your party shine, even if your dress code is… casual dress necessary! Cozy up and get your Friendsgiving on!

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If orange is not a part of your color love language, try toning it down to a soft peach. Let nature dictate your color choice with a bevy of pastel pumpkins dotting the landscape. Next pop in loads of candles to give your Friendsgiving that perfect cozy glow.

And on the menu? Try Baked Potatoes with Goat Cheese, Rosemary and Caramelized Onions, Apple Cornbread Stuffing and the most amazing Sweet Potato Soup with Bacon and Maple Cinnamon Drizzle. 

What feast is complete without dessert? To finish the most delicious and amazing Friendsgiving ever, lay out a classic pumpkin pie spread and little boxes for guests to take leftovers. This simple DIY is a sure fire way to make Friendsgiving the gift that keeps on giving. Or as party favors, put a turkey shirt for the hubby’s or a monogrammed mug for your girlfriends at their place setting.  And there you have it, pretty inspiration to whip your Friendgiving into tip top shape.

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It’s the one day in your entire life that you get to rock a veil (ok.. well maybe a short one for your bachelorette party too!), so you want to make sure you capture it in all it’s bridal glory. It’s the one bridal accessory your guests are dying to see you in and the one you’ll want to capture to remember forever. If you haven’t already gotten on the wedding pinning bandwagon, I can’t think of a better time. Pin your favorite bridal veil pose ideas below and share them with your photographer to make sure you capture these moments feeling like a bride! Which bridal veil pose idea is your favorite? And get ready to shop some of my favorite veils below!

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